我的交友哲学很简单，忠诚、可靠、稳定。今天找你在、明天找你不在不行。今天喜欢、明天讨厌的不行、情绪变化太大的不行。没有规律不行、无法清晰地表达自己的需求不行、不讲道理不行、不懂互相尊重不行、不打算建立平等的关系不行、挂羊头卖狗肉不行、贬低别人抬高自己不行。发消息超过四天不回不行。只想逃避、不想解决的不行。

不诚实可以、但不可以恶意隐瞒。不喜欢同样的东西没关系、但不可以没道理的攻击。喜欢上同一个男/女生没关系、但不可以不坦诚、和公平竞争。有不安全感可以、因为自己的不安全感对对方进行攻击和内耗不行。

我没安全感、更不习惯复杂、迂回、拉扯的关系。

ChatGPT translation:

My philosophy on friendship is simple: loyalty, reliability, stability. If I reach out to you today, you should be there; if I reach out tomorrow and you’re not, that doesn’t work. Liking someone today and hating them tomorrow doesn’t work. Emotional swings that are too big don’t work. No consistency doesn’t work. Not being able to clearly express your needs doesn’t work. Being unreasonable doesn’t work. Not understanding mutual respect doesn’t work. Not intending to build an equal relationship doesn’t work. Pretending to be one thing while being another doesn’t work. Putting others down to lift yourself up doesn’t work. Not replying to messages for more than four days doesn’t work. Only wanting to avoid problems without wanting to solve them doesn’t work.

Being dishonest is okay, but malicious concealment is not. It’s okay to not like the same things I do, but it’s not okay to attack for no reason. It’s okay to like the same guy or girl as me, but not okay to be dishonest or avoid fair competition. It’s okay to feel insecure, but attacking others or creating internal conflict because of your own insecurity is not.

I’m insecure myself, and I’m even less used to relationships that are complicated, roundabout, or full of push and pull.